Great Expectations?
It’s Wedding Wednesday again and while I’d love to share more details with you, my planning is at kind of a standstill until I hear back from our travel agent with some package info. Apparently, three feet of snow makes a lot of people want to get out of town! There is one subject, though, that my fiance and I are constantly debating; the registry. The issue: I want one, he doesn’t.
For most couples, this isn’t even a question, but of course, we have to be different and thus difficult. 
My sweetie’s argument is that it’s asking too much of our guests to pay to travel to our wedding and get us a gift too. I totally agree with him. If you come to our far-flung affair, that’s more than enough gift for us.
However, I also realize that not everyone will be able to make it and some of those people will want to send a gift anyway. What’s wrong with offering them a suggestion or two about what we might like? I have been dreaming of registering for gifts almost as long as I have been dreaming of my wedding! Do I have to give it up in the name of not looking greedy?
Really, as a wedding-gift shopper, I like having a list of things I know for certain the bride and groom – ok, at least the bride – have personally selected. I think of it less as demanding, more as helpful. I’ve also been to enough bridal showers (of which my fiance knows nothing!) to know you get a lot of your registry items then.
But, I’m a writer and clearly, can rationalize just about anything. This argument is going to be settled anytime soon, so tell me, my dear readers, what do you think?
Waiting for more amo,
SPF
Helen says:
February 17th, 2010
8:52 pm
Some people will always buy you gifts. Wouldn’t you rather get something you like than, say, garden stones emblazoned with your names or a crystal pitcher that looks like one from a pizza shop, but weighs twenty times as much? (Yes, these are actual gifts I have seen received.)
Tell your friends exactly that, that you don’t want any more gift than their attendance. Most of them will take you at your word. But when Great-aunt Mitzie decides that she absolutely must mark the occasion with a gift, at least your mom will be able to point her in the right direction.
SPF: I’m so going to use your garden stones example!
alyssa says:
February 19th, 2010
9:32 pm
Thought this was south philly appropriate! Love your blog!
http://alyssamaloof.blogspot.com/2010/02/nicole-jason-south-philly-wedding.html