I am aware that today is Thurs., but I just didn’t get around to posting yesterday. Sorry! You understand, though, right? I knew you would. You’re the best.
But, I did promise you a weekly wedding planning update and I don’t like to disappoint. So, this week, I have a big confession to make: I have been engaged for three years and have not tried on a single wedding dress. I don’t know what it is, but I am petrified to put one on!! And this is totally unlike me! I LOVE, scratch that, LIVE to shop! Trying on clothes is like a port to me. My fiance is amazed at how quickly I move in and out of the dressing room. I walk in with a pile of clothes bigger than I am, assess each item instantly and emerge from the dressing room in mere moments with one or two items that I’ll be taking to the register, if anything at all.
So, why I am not able to try on this particular item of clothing? I remember going dress shopping with my my best friend when she was about to be married and even then I was afraid of the gowns. One of the attendants asked if I’d like to try one particular dress on and I think my reply was, “God, no!”
I speculate the reasons I dread trying on wedding dresses are threefold:
- Permanence. We’ve all made missteps in our fashion judgment over the years. I know each of you had a picture of yourself with a bad perm, pants, etc. What if this is one of those times? You don’t want to see the pictures of you in your M.C. Hammer pants every time you visit your in-laws.
- Significance. Few dresses are as monumental in your life and your wedding dress. Can it possibly live up to my fantasies (and come in under budget)? What if I pick the wrong dress? I knew a girl once who made her parents buy her a new dress six months after she had bought the first one. I am paying for my own dress, people! I can’t afford mistakes.
- Pressure. I’ll admit it, the pressure is mostly self-inflicted. I’m well aware it’s heavily linked to our societal body image issues, but I am absolutely never 100% satisfied with the way I look. And if there’s one day you want to be completely happy with the way you look, it’s gonna be your wedding day. Crazy? Yes. Unusual? I’m thinking, no.
Am I wrong? Did you approach your wedding dress trials with far-less trepidation than this obsessive fashionista? Maybe it’s a wedding thing? Was there anything about your nuptials that scared the bejeezus out of you? Share my pain and at the same time, ease my suffering! What matrimonial minutia messed with your mind? And, more importantly, how did you get past it?!?!